It is easy at first with all the excitement of the chase, the mystery surrounding your love interest and the escalating sexual tensions. But after a couple of weeks, months or years you might begin to question...Are they the one? But before your eyes wander too much, think about the 80/20 Rule and see if your relationship is measuring up.
The 80/20 Rule is simple. In a healthy relationship, you get about 80 per cent of what you need/want from your partner. They are caring, respectful and share a lot of the same interests as you, but then you meet someone who catches your attention for an unknown reason. It may well be because they fulfill the missing 20 per cent in your relationship – namely the sexual component. Because that 20 per cent has been missing for so long, you quickly conclude, “Hey, this person has everything I am looking for in a partner.” This can be a relationship killer. Since you jump genitals-first for this new interest, you may have given up your 80 per cent loving partner for a 20 per cent fling. The regret automatically sets in.
During the good times in a loving relationship, the other 20 per cent doesn’t really matter because you don’t notice it missing. You are content and fulfilled with your partner. Your 80 per cent feels like 100 per cent. When you are in an argument, however, because your partner is too messy or something petty, then the 20 per cent is tossed into the limelight.
This isn’t to say that you should stick with the current, thankless partner. You might only be getting the 20 per cent in the relationship, anyway. In this case, if you are truly miserable, maybe you should shop around. The point is to look at your relationship and really question if something substantial is missing. If this is the case and you feel unsatisfied, then move on and find someone who can offer you more. Remember, a key element to any relationship is honesty – not just to your partner, but yourself.
The 80/20 Rule explains some of the mysteries of relationships. It makes sense why cheaters go after the 20 per cent while trying to hold on to the other 80 per cent. The relationship crush (when you are in a loving relationship but have a crush on the local barista) often manifests because you see the other 20 per cent in the crush. And even the “players,” who jump from one 20 per cent adventure to another in a vain attempt to eventually equal 100.
If your relationship is going through a rough patch, think about the 80/20 Rule. Before switching partners, be careful since you might be giving up more than you think. First look at what you have instead of focusing on what is missing. Just remember, don’t throw away a good thing for a piece of new ass. We don’t need the divorce rate to inflate anymore.
Monday, September 13, 2010
Sunday, September 12, 2010
"Men Rules" - Women need to learn these
*Women, learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
*Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not considered by us to be opportunities to see if we can find the perfect present again!
*Sometimes we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
*Sunday = sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
*Don't cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then you're stuck with her.
*Ask for what you want. Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
*We don't remember dates. . . .Period!!
*Most guys own three pairs of shoes - tops. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
*Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
*Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
*A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
*Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
*If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
*If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us. We've been tricked before!!
*If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
*Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway; it's genetic.
*You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
*Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
*Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.
*The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your girlfriends.
*ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
*If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
*We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
*If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing", we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
*If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
*Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
*Foreign films are best left to foreigners. (Unless it's Bruce Lee or some war flick where it doesn't really matter what they're saying anyway.)
*BEER is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.
*Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not considered by us to be opportunities to see if we can find the perfect present again!
*Sometimes we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
*Sunday = sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
*Don't cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then you're stuck with her.
*Ask for what you want. Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
*We don't remember dates. . . .Period!!
*Most guys own three pairs of shoes - tops. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
*Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
*Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
*A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
*Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
*If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
*If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us. We've been tricked before!!
*If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
*Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway; it's genetic.
*You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
*Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
*Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.
*The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your girlfriends.
*ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
*If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
*We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
*If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing", we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
*If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
*Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
*Foreign films are best left to foreigners. (Unless it's Bruce Lee or some war flick where it doesn't really matter what they're saying anyway.)
*BEER is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.
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